After a long day at work, as soon as I see my boys, I wonder how their day went. Did they have fun? Did they do anything interesting? Did something make them happy or sad? Given that they are both under five years old, I don’t expect to get much information from them. I often wish that I could be a fly on the wall so I could spy on them and see what they do and say when I’m not around.
Over dinner recently, my almost-five-year-old casually told us that his best friend hit him many times. Concerned, we asked him what he did about it and he said that he told the teacher. He added that his friend now has a new friend in their morning class so “he doesn’t play with me anymore.” With a hopeful tone, he added “but he does play with me in the afternoon because the new friend isn’t in that class.”
He said it so matter-of-factly that I studied his big brown eyes for signs of sadness. He seemed fine, but I had to excuse myself from the table. Big stinging tears rolled down my face. I felt sad for him. I wanted to protect him. I felt helpless. My mind replayed moments in my own childhood when I felt alone or rejected by my peers. The sadness hit me like big waves and I just cried in my husband’s arms.
It’s not easy being a parent. Nobody said it would be. You have to do your best to quell your mama bear instincts to protect your child from every bruise, every injustice, and every heartache because you know that these experiences are actually good for them. Learning how to overcome adversity is just part of growing up and it helps to build character, compassion, and grit.
My hope is that no matter what happens in the big, uncertain world, my sons can always come home and feel loved and comforted because they know that their parents are their #1 fans.
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